Day-time Drama.

>> Tuesday, April 6, 2010

I wasn't fooling myself into thinking I would wake up and suddenly this would all be easy, but I thought that, by now, I'd be getting the hang of it. Everyone tells you that you'll learn to recognize your baby's cries like her own little language, that parenting will become second nature, that you'll fall into a routine. Everyone also says that the unexplained fussiness will start to become less and less, that your baby will become more predictable.


Well, no, no, no, no and no. On all accounts.

I feel like I'm actually getting worse at anticipating Adelyn's needs. She just seems restless the past few days. She's hardly content for more than ten minutes at a time. Out of nowhere she's become one of those babies that refuses to be put down. (At first, I was struck by how independent she was--she was just fine falling asleep on her own and staring at her own fingers.) Now, the second--literally, the second--our hands leave her body she's screaming.

Jason and I have gotten better at coping. One of our favorite ways to deal is to make up songs. A lot of the time Adelyn will quiet down if you sing LOUDLY right in her face (sounds cruel--but I swear she loves it). We've created our own rendition of "'O Holy Night," that goes a little something like, "'O Addy Belle, your cries are driving us craaa-aazy." Jason has about a thousand little ditties he's made up to comfort her.

We've also discovered that Adelyn loves watching her dad dance. Last night, after twenty minutes of non-stop crying, we sat her down on the couch and Jason just started maniacally dancing. It was sort of out of desperation and sort of for our own exhausted amusement. And then, just like that, she was smiling. He danced until he was out of breath. And then we gave in and picked her back up.

Just this morning--she ate, she burped. We had about twenty minutes of play-time where she was all smiles and coos, and then, poof, happiness gone. Crying ensued. Eventually I walked outside with her pressed against my chest, and suddenly she was happy again. So I brought her bouncer out to our back deck, and for now she's content, staring at me. If she likes it outside, then here we will stay. All. Day. Long.

I'm not complaining, really I'm not. We are so lucky. Not only is Adelyn perfectly healthy and wonderful, but she sleeps through the night pretty much every night. I'm always surprised when I wake up at 7 a.m. after eight hours of interrupted sleep. And I always take a minute to thank the baby Gods for giving me one who likes to sleep in her crib, alone, for hours at a time.

The better she's been sleeping at night, though, the harder she's been to deal with during the day. I've been doing a lot of freelance work and I'm up for a wonderful job that would allow me to work from home most of the time (more on that later), but that's become increasingly difficult with a baby that won't nap, won't be set down, and won't be happy. I need to find some way to get her on a schedule during the day. I'm not asking for the schedule to be perfect, but it needs to be something. Anything.

I know it'll pass. Right? Someone tell me it'll pass. Please?

6 comments:

Unknown April 6, 2010 at 7:52 AM  

Hi Sara! I've been following you since Rachel posted your link on FB. (I'm one of her h.s. quiz bowl friends.)

Anyway, what you are going through with Addie right now seems very much what I went through with my Thomas when he was a few months old. (He's 2-years old now.) He had been sleeping well and was a pretty contented baby. Out of the blue he stopped sleeping and was fussy about any kind of sleeping time. I thought it was just a phase, but then someone suggested that maybe he had an ear infection. It turns out that is exactly what it was! The poor boy had no other symptoms-no fever, no snotty nose, no cough, no ear rubbing...nothing!

Hopefully it is just a phase for Addie, but if your mommy radar goes off and tells you that maybe something else is going on beyond it just being a fussy time, listen to it. Don't feel foolish taking her to the doctor.

AllTheStarsAreMine April 6, 2010 at 8:21 AM  

In my opinion, there is this thing that some babies do as they come out of newborn stage. And it sorta ties into bedtime. During naps and bedtime, they associate a place (crib/bed) with sleep. or a single thing like a blanky or toy. But it is vital to falling asleep. Some babies will continue to be able to fall asleep ANYWHERE! but with ALL 3 of mine-there has to be the correct setting.
Luckily for me, (the other 2 are older, 7 & 5)the baby likes being worn, so if im away from home, and she needs to sleep i just strap her on. Then, if settings allow-i will lay her down somewhere once asleep. IDK if this fits in your situation. My LO likes to cat nap(30-60minutes) after each meal at some point. or its melt down city.

AllTheStarsAreMine April 6, 2010 at 8:25 AM  

oops, dropped the ball up there. Didn't finish completely.
Just want to add in that when we are at home & not out-her spot IS* her bed. She won't fall asleep many other places, and once placed in her bed, with her blanket up by her eyes(she does this) she starts to doze off. She needs her Music box playing too when she lays in her bed.

Rachel,  April 6, 2010 at 9:40 AM  

How old is she? I noticed at a certain point, maybe 2 mos. old that my daughter was "bored." Taking her out for a walk or to the mall or even the grocery store really helped. She was as sick as I was of staring at the same four walls...
Additionally, I highly recommend the book "The Wonder Weeks." Its a developmental philosophy that is really really reassuring. Basically says that babies just go through certain phases, when to expect them (it was SPOT on for us) and what milestones their working on. Waaaay better than Sears or anyone, it is out of print, but Amazon usually carries it used.

Anonymous,  April 6, 2010 at 10:22 AM  

http://archive.sesameworkshop.org/sesamebeginnings/new/dvds.php


I swear by these movies your daughter will love them, I have 3 goddaughters and they all sat wide eyed and grinning as they watched these movies, I know some people are opposed to their babies watching t.v and im not really for it. However these dvds are awesome and they teach the babies easy to learn songs and games that you can play with him/her. Good luck with the schedule :)

Anonymous,  April 8, 2010 at 8:06 PM  

It sounds like you have a very fussy baby! Does she maybe have colic??

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